Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 3 months. We started having sex after 3 months and for 9 months we had both oral and regular sex without any complications.
But, 2 and a half months ago he complained about feeling pain while i was going down on him, and later 2 cuts in the middle of the frenulum appeared. As he felt sudden pain during oral sex, we concluded the injury probably appeared because of me being too rough.
As time passed we continued having sex as we thought the wound will disappear but it didn’t. It only healed a bit when we had 2 or 3 days pause from sex. But after that it would appear again. The wound doesn’t bleed, it’s like a really small cut and it stings sometimes after sex.
My question is can it heal totally if we avoid sex for 2 weeks and if he puts some cream like Neosporin or Bepanthen? Because it got a little bit better from how it was,but we never had a longer pause from sex than 2-3 days since the wound/cut appeared. Thank you very much for your answer in advance.
The skin of the penis is very tender, and rough sex and also – a lack of lubrication, can lead to the occurrence of various kinds of injuries. In fact, the reasons for which there may be a wound on the frenulum, and long unhealing, not so much. Here are the most common:
- Short frenulum.
Very common in adolescents, but can also cause problems for adults. An wound can occur during masturbation or intercourse. In the place of tearing appears wound, which heals within 3-5 days. Afterwards it can leave a small scar, which can adversely affect later sexual life (premature ejaculation).
- Candida balanoposthitis.
Many even have no idea how thrush in men manifests, therefore ignore the first signs in the form of the appearance of small wounds, cracks, redness, drying out of the skin and swelling on the penis. So, if the wound on the frenulum appeared some time after the sexual intercourse, and along with it there are red specks on the head, a small itch, a white coating and an unpleasant smell – there is a high probability of activating the thrush.
- Sexually transmitted diseases.
In fact, a lot of sexually transmitted diseases can provoke the appearance of a wound on the frenulum. The same primary syphilis can cause a solid chancre along the entire length of the penis. Such wounds are also called syphilitic ulcers. They do not heal very long, bleed, have a specific smell. To confuse them with something else is very difficult.
- Normal traumatization.
Surprisingly, even without a sexual act, you can hurt a frenulum about a thing or a snake on trousers. Some even manage to injure themselves with a fingernail. The bottom line is not this, the most important thing is to process the wound well in time and prevent infection. In the case of an inflammatory process, immediately seek help from specialists.
In your case, it is quite possible to injure your teeth during oral sex.
Now about what you can use to treat a wound.
Do not treat open wounds on the penis with alcohol-containing medications. At best, it will be strongly “pinching”, at worst you can get a severe burn. Bepanten can be used as it contains B-panthenol which helps healing wound faster.
For healing it is necessary not to have sex for several days, but if the ulcer does not heal, then it is necessary to come to the urologist to exclude the fungal lesion of the penis.
Best of luck to both of you!